One of the most heartbreaking things to discover in a relationship is that your significant other has been cheating on you. Maybe they denied it initially, or maybe they owned up right away, but either way, it’s a terrible feeling and one that no person should ever have to go through (unless their partner actually did cheat). The following are ways people found out that their partner was cheating without even having to directly ask them or confront them about it.
1) Found Incriminating evidence
It was the middle of the night, and I couldn’t sleep. I reached for my phone to check the time when it lit up with a text message from my boyfriend that read I love you. My stomach dropped as I scrolled through our texts and found more messages like this. It was then that I knew he was cheating on me, and all the signs had been there. When people revealed their stories about how they learned their partner was cheating, they shared some common themes such as physical evidence in the form of an incriminating text message or email. They also discussed finding items they didn’t know belonged to their partner.
2) Their partner acting strange
A person revealed that they learned their partner was cheating when they acted strange. I noticed my husband started acting very weird and he had been working late a lot. I looked at his phone and saw a bunch of messages from this girl who was on the other line all the time. Plus, he changed his social media passwords to something I didn’t know, said one person in an interview. It’s not uncommon for people to change their passwords if they’re using someone else’s computer or phone. But it could also be a sign of hiding evidence, especially if the password is replaced regularly so you can’t get in.
3) Their partner was always working late
They would always come home late. They would always be on the phone for hours, even when they said they were talking to a coworker. They would often have red eyes or smell really bad. There was never a reason for not coming home at a reasonable time. There was no explanation for being on the phone all day when they said they were just catching up with their coworkers. The excuses became so ridiculous that I started doubting myself, thinking maybe it wasn’t my boyfriend who was cheating on me, but instead I had some mental disorder that made me see and believe things that weren’t true…I had to know one way or the other so I hired a private investigator to follow him and see what he did all day long when he said he was at work.
4) They caught their partner in a lie
One of the most common ways people learn their partner is cheating is when they catch them in a lie. For example, one woman discovered her husband was cheating when she found receipts for dinner with his mistress at the bottom of his briefcase. Another man found out his wife had been unfaithful when he logged into her email and saw emails from another man. You can also tell if someone is lying by looking for odd or inconsistent behaviors in their conversation as well as inconsistencies in what they say about their whereabouts. If your partner suddenly won’t answer your calls or texts, it’s possible that they are busy doing something else.
5) They found out their partner was talking to someone else
I learned my partner was cheating when I found out they were talking to someone else. I knew that he was spending a lot of time on his phone and not responding to my texts, but I thought he was just avoiding me because he felt bad about what we did the night before. When I saw him typing away and smiling at his phone screen, it hit me that he wasn’t ignoring me – he was chatting with somebody else! It made me feel awful, or It really hit me hard. I stormed over to him and demanded he put his phone down so I could see who he was talking to. He didn’t want me to look at it, but there weren’t any apps open so eventually I got bored and stopped asking for it. He had been texting her for over an hour in secret! And she had responded like ten times too.
6) Their partner was suddenly distant
My partner had been distant for months, barely touching me or showing any affection whatsoever. He kept complaining about how I was too clingy and needy, but he was the one who turned down my advances and made it clear that he wanted nothing to do with me sexually. When I finally confronted him about it, he got really angry and defensive, claiming that his job was really stressful and he needed some space. The excuses were blatant lies so I knew something was up. After doing some research on the internet, I found out that these signs often mean someone is cheating on their partner. Sure enough, when I looked at his phone there were a bunch of messages to a girl named Sarah from work who’s only mentioned by her first name in the conversations.
7) Their partner was always busy
I was first suspicious because he would always be busy with work. I knew he had a lot of clients and it made sense that he had to take care of them, but then the excuses started piling up and I started to get suspicious. One day when I texted him about something, his response was I’m in the middle of something. Can we talk later? I knew that was bullshit, so I decided to look through his phone one night when he was asleep. Sure enough, there were messages on his phone from other women telling him they missed him and wanted to see him again soon. He woke up while I was looking through his messages and tried to stop me by saying it wasn’t what it seemed like.