Reasons that give an ick, when it comes to dating… These are the moments you pause in your search for The One and ask yourself if you’re doing it all wrong. They are the moments where you think, I don’t want to be single forever, but maybe this isn’t what I want? Here are reasons why dating gives an ick sometimes
1) Ghosting
Ghosting is a new dating trend where people will suddenly disappear from your life without warning or explanation. Ghosting often happens when the person is no longer interested in you and they don’t want to be rude, but this behavior can still leave you feeling hurt and confused. Ghosting leaves you wondering what the heck just happened and how do they feel about me?
You’re not important enough for me. I’m too busy right now. It’s not you, it’s me. All of these phrases are things that ghosters will say when confronted with their actions.
2) Benching
Are you tired of getting icked up every time you start dating? Us too. Here are the 1things that give us the most ick when it comes to dating.
There’s no guarantee that someone is what they seem online. Unless you know them in real life, there’s always the risk of being lied to or deceived. And even if someone is telling the truth, they could still be a terrible person outside of their online persona, which makes it hard for us to trust them and enjoy our time together. We’re never sure if we should give someone our number so they can text us… But then again, we don’t want them to think we’re not interested by not responding. So what do we do? Nothing!
3) Submarining
Dating can be a really great and enjoyable thing. But sometimes it just feels like work, or a necessary task that you have no other choice but to do, or something that you don’t want to do. The following are some of the reasons why dating can give an ick: You’re not in the mood. You’re tired. You just got out of a relationship. You’re too busy with work. The person you’re going on a date with is not the kind of person you’d usually be attracted to. You don’t want to get hurt It’s raining outside. Your hair looks bad. Your clothes are uncomfortable And so many more!
4) Zombie-ing
The I Like You But You’re Not My Type – This is always the worst, for me at least. If you say this to me, you better hope that this isn’t your only method of communication because it’s not going anywhere from there.
The But I’m Not Ready for a Relationship – This guy is just looking for someone he can hang out with and not be committed too. He likes the idea of being in a relationship but really doesn’t want anything too serious. Basically, he’s commitment-phobic but doesn’t want to admit it to himself or anyone else.
The Womanizer – These guys are everywhere and they all have a different way of doing things.
5) Haunting
It happens to the best of us, we start seeing someone and we like them. We want them to know how much they mean to us and so we send them a text message saying Hey, just wanted you to know that you’re on my mind. And what do we get in return? Nothing. No response whatsoever. This isn’t a new phenomenon either, it’s been happening for centuries. But why is this happening and what can you do about it? There are many reasons why someone might not reply to your messages including: They don’t feel comfortable with texting; They are trying to figure out if they want to commit; They are dating other people or there are too many people vying for their attention at the moment. The best thing you can do if this is happening to you, is try not take it personally and remember that not everyone wants the same thing from relationships as others.
6) Breadcrumbing
Breadcrumbing is a term that was coined as a result of the advent-of-smartphones era. Breadcrumbing (also known as breadcrumb texting) is when someone sends out text messages or other digital communications but doesn’t actually follow up on them or make any attempt at making plans with you. Essentially, this person leaves little bread crumbs for you to follow but never invites you over for a meal. While it may seem like these breadcrumbs are leading somewhere, they’re not – they’re just bread crumbs that lead nowhere.
Breadcrumbing has become popular in recent years because it’s so easy to do with the use of smartphones.
7) Cuffing
Cuffing is when you and your partner agree that they’re the only person you’ll be dating. Once you decide on this, it’s important to make sure both of your feelings are genuine. If one person wants out of the relationship for any reason, there should be no hard feelings about it. This can help both people find a suitable partner without having to worry about hurting someone else’s feelings.
Cuffing is good for situations where one person may be too busy with work or school and not have time for dating. Cuffing can also take place if one person isn’t ready for another serious relationship just yet but still wants to date casually without having a revolving door of dates coming in and out of their life.
8) Caspering
Some people will say that it’s just a numbers game and that you’ll eventually find someone. But when you find yourself being matched with the same type of person, over and over again, it can be discouraging. And even worse, your perfect match may have already found someone else! If you’re tired of the endless search for true love, check out these reasons that give an ick when it comes to dating.
You are repeatedly matched with the same type of person. On dating apps, this is one of my biggest pet peeves. Are we all just supposed to date each other? What is this supposed to accomplish?
Your perfect match has already found someone else. So much for finding your soulmate!
